Ultimate and simple tool to avoid fights

I still remember myself as a child. And I don’t mean some short flashes of me memory. I remember some of my thoughts, my feelings and all of my concerns. My hubby says that’s because I’m still a child. Well, as long as I get along with kids – I don’t mind it.

Have you ever tried to remember how relationships were back then? I mean, what did friendship mean to you? It was all different. Absolutely different. Even if it seems much easier to us now, it was never easy. Especially solving conflicts and dealing with bulling.

So this is why we decided to research this question a bit and find a conscious working and easy way to help kids solving their conflicts.

It’s called the circle method. I’m sure I’ve already mentioned it before.

It’s a natural way to find a solution to any possible problem!

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How does it work?

One of the most effective and affordable means of the technique is the “roundtable.” A roundtable is a mechanism.

It’s not a new idea. Roundtables have been known for a long time. According to the legend, King Arthur, the fabled leader of the Britons in the 5th and 6th centuries, introduced the roundtable so that his sovereigns and participants at his feasts would not argue with each other about the best place and, therefore, felt equal.

Sounds like a perfect, fun and easy way to communicate. However, it is important to note that the roundtable is held according to certain rules. Its participants should make an effort to add their own individuality and originality to the common pool. Efforts should be directed to minimize disturbances and friction on the one hand, and to enhance each other’s contribution.

The rules:

  1. Conversation goes clockwise
  2. Absolutely NO interrupting
  3. Everybody has an equal amount of time to speak
  4. No arguing
  5. We try to add to what had already been said not to debate
  6. We listen carefully to each other
  7. Everybody is equal in the circle
  8. We speak to the center of the circle, not to particular person

The technique allows overcoming any barriers that hinder our understanding: mentality, origin, age, political views, etc.

At the same time, a specific solution to a specific problem is not the goal. The main goal is to obtain unity! And as a natural consequence of the unity achieved in the circle the solution will come.

Reaching a new level of harmonious, integral relationships, similar to the perfection of nature itself is what you get using this method.

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