We are definitely all tired from yelling and feeling guilty afterwards. But sometimes you just feel desperate. I know, we already faced it. And that raises the question: how to get kids to listen without yelling!
So I turned to my psychologist diploma.
There had to be a resin why I got it, anyway.
There is a theory (I honestly forgot where I read it), according to which we can’t give restriction to our kids.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not about free for all policy.
It’s about becoming a FRIEND to your child, not a superintendent.
And I can only imagine how hard it is.
Anyway, it sounds amazing and simple. So my friends mommies started to try it with their kids. And surprisingly — it works!
Though, it’s really hard to believe, it appears to be so easy to communicate with your children.
But let’s get back to the meat.
The main rule is – no restrictions from you. So, if you need to prevent your child from doing something you use anybody else.
Like: «wow. You want to climb that tree! Sounds nice! But unfortunately our neighbor doesn’t allow doing that». Or: «You want to eat chocolate? Perfect! Me too! But your dentist said no chocolate! So sad»
I know, I know, it sounds too simple to be true.
But, mommies, it works!
I even remember my mom doing something like this when I was little.
So. The keynote is, that even if it won’t work immediately and your child will climb that tree and eat that chocolate, he/she will feel that you want to be a part of his/her desires.
And this is a long-term investment.
What you get in the end is — honesty and TRUST!
It’s definitely worth trying.
Although, having some rules doesn’t mean having restrictions.
Meaning, it’s totally not against the method to follow some regular rules at home.