As oppose as I’m am to divorces, even I can understand that there are situations when the time comes to let go.
And when we were young and didn’t have kids, life seemed easy. You date, you break up, you make up. All those crazy and fast emotional states we went through are giving me a whiplash even now.
Now, as we have families and responsibilities, we tend to think more before we decide something. We try to work it out first. And I strongly believe, that almost everything can be worked out.
Nevertheless, some cases are just a pure struggle. When the harm caused to the whole family (including kids) outweighs all the positive sides and all the preliminary methods (like family therapy) have been tried, something needs to be done. And that’s when divorce can be a salvation.
If you find yourself in such situation, first of all – we are sorry. But don’t let yourself be sorry, take it under control.
3 steps to divorce as peacefully as possible
1. Deal with emotions first.
Emotional aspect of any separation is strong. You may have tried a lot to save your marriage and invested all the time in the world and it still resulted in inevitable divorce. It’s frustrating. And it may make you angry.
Anger is something that can cloud your judgement. In order to make your divorce as painless as possible, anger needs to go. Acknowledge order valium xanax online your anger. And take control.
Find a therapist, talk to your friends, get support.
2. Learn to communicate with your former spouse without bitterness.
That’s the hardest one. But when the assets have to be decided and custody questions straighten out, there will be no place for misunderstandings. You need it to be done fast and stressless. Especially when it comes to your kids.
If you find it hard to talk to your ex – prepare in advance. Write down all the things you need to say. As if you would prepare to be a part of a play or to give a public speech. Don’t let your anger confuse you.
3. Find a great lawyer.
It doesn’t mean that you have to find an expensive law firm. You just need to find a person, who will be professional and compassionate enough to understand your feelings.
It’s important that you trust this person.
Keep in mind that there are firms that offer 2-step divorces with no lawyers involved. Future is now. What can I say.
This approach can definitely save you some time.
And the last thing.
Learn to let go. Because believe it or not, there is something incredible out there. That is waiting for you.
But in order to get there, you need to free you mind from bitter memories, your soul from anger and your body from physical pain.
Focus on yourself. On what makes YOU happy!
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